You totally nailed it!! 100%. When I broke it off with her she was hurt and fell into this emo downward spiral and like you said, there was some bum guy willing to "help her out" and then whammo - shes preggo. I totally understand her and her daughter are a package deal now and I accept that. I have just never lived with a kid before and it is the unknown that makes me nervous. I think I could hack it, but It's an experience I've never had! I do truly love her though.