So there's this girl I've known for quite some time. We have spoken to each other over the phone on a daily basis & have gone out on several dates... Everything is good & we both truly love each other. I've recently seen & spoken to the family, both over the phone & in person by visiting them. I spoke to the family about getting engaged & getting to know the girl. Since the parents don't allow the girl to go out, see me or even speak to me over the phone it's hard to communicate with her. Whenever I've taken her out or spoken to her it was done behind her parents back. Her parents are stubborn & very hard on the girl. I've seen with my own eyes she is made to do a lot of house work, cleaning, washing up, ironing & cooking. Her father would often come home from work late at 1:00 or so in the morning. He will then demand her to prepare food for him, bring him a drink & he raises his voice, he is hard on her. The girl works part time & on several occasions her mother would not let her leave to go to work until the house work has been completed. Her mum would lock the door & demand her to finish work in the house before going to work. The girl phoned me a few times crying that she was late for work due to her mother asking he to do the house work. She is often 1-2 hours late for work due to house work. She is treated like a servant by her parents, she is not happy but since she is living with her family she has no choice. Now, after speaking several times with her parents, the father seems to like me but her mother, who is a trouble maker doesn't seem fond of me. She is nitpicking on silly things and saying things about my mother & father, accusing of of lying. The mother doesn't seem to want her daughter to be happy or get married, just want to continue to use her for cooking & cleaning the house. Whenever I see my GF treated like this, it really hurts & angers me, I feel so sorry for her. After speaking to my parents several times about the situation, they too agree her family are tough, don't want anyone happy & even if I got married I will get trouble & headache in the future from her parents, especially the mother. My father told me yesterday that if I get a 'no' from her parents to accept the answer and forget the girl. There are plenty of fish in the sea, plenty of single women with decent families. Thing is I love this girl & she loves me. She is often stressed & upset due to the way she is treated by her family. She is not even allowed to leave the house, go out or see friends. If she wishes to go out she must go with her parents or one of her brothers. Her parents are not on good terms & rarely take the girl anywhere. Maybe several times to the month to get some food/shopping or to the dentist. There is no entertainment, no restaurants or even the cinema. Food is always cooked & eaten at home, never do the parents go out & eat. My GF has 2 younger brothers, they too are very quiet & rarely go out, they spend most of the time in their rooms gaming. It kills me seeing such a nice girl living like this with such a horrible family. Previously when the girl was not working she would be locked in the house 24/7. I used to come home from work at 6:00 on a daily basis and see her staring at me from her balcony, but it was a sad smile. I could see she wanted to come down to meet me & say hi but it was not allowed. When her parents leave the house they take the keys so the girl cannot leave the house. Her brother/s are usually home so the girl is never alone. I truly love this girl & wish to spend the rest mf my life with her, making her happy, smile, take her out and enjoy our life. Should I get bad news from her family, it will mean they do not wish me to marry their daughter, and never will they want me to see or speak to her again. Why should this poor girl continue to suffer with her family? She is currently 23 years old, not 16. Yet no matter what she says to her parents they refuse to listen or show any kind of interest to what she desires. Her mother will keep giving her excuses and tell her she is not in love, she is thinking from her heart & not her brain. Questions is, what would YOU do if you was in MY position? I've thought about this for weeks & it's a tough call. I cannnot just forget this girl, walk away & continue to let her suffer & live a miserable life with her family who show no love/care towards her. Would you forget the situation & move on? Or, would you save up some money, get some tickets, move to another country with the girl you love, marry & live a happy life? Looking forwards to a positive response gurus.