Girlfriend leaving country

Discussion in 'The Guru's Pub' started by Rumpus01, Jun 13, 2013.

  1. IcE

    IcE Don Snow

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    Lol.... Simply put, It's a bad idea to drop all your sh*t (this includes friends, your job, schooling, family) to chase tail, no matter how compatible you think you are. Sure, it would be very romantic for the OP to commit to that level, but it's just not worth it. Anything could happen once you're over there that would make the whole thing a waste of time. Call me cynical, but a relationship is about compromise, and she' having none of it. Not to mention, this is a relationship involving young people, and the fact of the matter is that young women rarely know what they want out of life, let alone a relationship.
     
  2. eclap

    eclap Banned

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    Lol, the love is clearly one sided. He loves her, no doubt, she can take him or leave him. It'll never work.
     
  3. eclap

    eclap Banned

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    She wants him to go but she doesn't want him to throw everything away. Aka she doesn't want him to go. Very true what you said btw. Op dump her and walk away with your head held high.

    /thread
     
  4. kiya

    kiya Guest

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    i agree
     

  5. otaku

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    if traveling isnt your thing let her go and agree with her you will both wait, stay in touch ect but keep an open mind on what may happen while your not there
     
  6. kiya

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    wrong thread, bud.
     
  7. scheherazade

    scheherazade Ancient Guru

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    I did the long distance thing. Traveled 1-2x a month. It worked out.

    I don't see long distance+travel working out in this case unless O.P. has so much cash that college was just for kicks to begin with.

    Ultimately, people have to do what makes them happy as individuals. If they sacrifice that for a relationship, then they will be miserable and the relationship will be hampered on account of it.
    She wants to travel. Cool. (I'd personally pick a place a bit less 'rapey and blamey' if I were in her shoes, but what-evz. Her call.)
    If O.P. wants to be with her, then he should get on that.







    I know one guy that did drop everything for his GF. They ended up getting married. Got a house, etc. Fast tracked themselves to the 'suburban single family dream'.
    ...
    He hated it. Bored out of his mind, and miserable.
    She also dismissed his personal activities as childish (boxing).
    They ended up separating.

    -scheherazade
     
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  8. scheherazade

    scheherazade Ancient Guru

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    LOL.
    No, no it's not :D

    Best. Reply. Yet.

    -scheherazade
     
  9. ManofGod

    ManofGod Ancient Guru

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    If you are planning to stay together for life, then marriage is the thing to do. If you two do not want to get married, then I would say that it will not last anyways.
     
  10. eclap

    eclap Banned

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    Wtf? The girl is about to leave him and you're talking about marriage? Yeah, she clearly wants to get married...
     

  11. ManofGod

    ManofGod Ancient Guru

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    A life long commitment is marriage. If you want to go with someone, do not go unless you are committed for life, that is marriage. Otherwise, it seems to me that life long may not be an option here.
     
  12. Mr.Bigtime

    Mr.Bigtime Ancient Guru

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    epic.

    my wife is eating my soul recently. i wouldnt expect this while i marry her but well. my ex was golden.
     
  13. mitzi76

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    harsh but true I think. let her go wish her all the best and see what happens!

    wish you luck op. must be hard to see/let the person you love go and not want to go with them but if you go and she doesnt really want you there or you dont feel comfortable it was never going to work anyways.

    strange that she says she wants you to go but is going anyways no matter what. maybe she isnt telling you the whole truth or is being nice.
     
  14. anticupidon

    anticupidon Ancient Guru

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    Nobody can predict the future of a relationship.
    And even the best ,perfect match relationships fall apart.
    What you like in your 20's maybe you will hate in your 30's.
    Do what you want,op.
    Whatever path you choose,you both win and lose.
    Nobody can turn back time and rethink the previous choice.
    Life lacks the F9 reload key.
     
  15. Comrade_Jerkov

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    Hit F10 for advice.

    In all seriousness, you should pursue your career interests. I've been in a similar situation before. It happened right before I got out of the military and it was whether to stay behind with my girlfriend or go back home and pursue my goals.

    I went back home and don't regret it for a single day. Never uproot your hopes and dreams for a girl unless there is something in traveling to the Middle East that will benefit you specifically. I'm not talking about being with her, I'm talking something that benefits yourself and your own interests.
     

  16. mitzi76

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    sound advice this but sometimes the heart overrules the head...
     
  17. Tom F

    Tom F Ancient Guru

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    If you don't have any reason to stay, go with her. Would be an exciting experience.
     
  18. mitzi76

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    mmm the middle East you def need a large pair....

    but then again i could blend in..i speak a 100 languages..in fact i have the grail already...:)

    ahh bugger i have blue eyes. damm manos arriba!!!

    p.s esp as the op is American. (no that it's fair necessarily).
     
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  19. StealBalls

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    Sorry about my silly post, honestly my sense of humor is quirky at best.

    To be serious for a moment, and without me reading a long thread, you need to establish a couple of things, one, how much has she expressed desperation for you to go with her, does she seem TORN at all?

    If not... upgrade your PC and by a large HDD to store much porn on.

    And by all means, disable VSYNC (sorry over the years it's one of the first things that anybody suggests whenever there is a problem, next is, what res do you play at? lol So now I am like, "you fell and hurt your arm? oh man, have you tried disabling VSYNC?" lol soz I suck yes I know.)

    If she has expressed VERY much interest in you going with her, perhaps do consider it, taking into account your current commitments of course, it is a great thing to travel and see the world and whatever did happen between you both you would likely be a better man for going - but think along these lines, you should not go JUST to hang on to her.

    Best of luck with a difficult decision, it has to be yours in the end, and above all, do listen to your instincts, do not turn a blind eye to them just because you may not want to face the real facts (she really may just not give much of a toss)

    All the best mate.
     
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    QFT..Yes life is not a rehearsal, just simply learn from it and move on, the quicker the better. Easier said than done though especially when there is a women involved:)
     

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