Getting Hitched...Advice?

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  1. biggi_

    biggi_ Guest

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    So I'm getting married Saturday to venture into the wonderful land of...well...I don't know seeing as I've never been married before. Anyone have some good *CLEAN* wisdom for a newly married geek?
     
  2. fantaskarsef

    fantaskarsef Ancient Guru

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    Don't f*ck up?
    Seriously, congrats, but with such advices it's like with fortune cookies messeges, they're easily getting generic.
     
  3. nhlkoho

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    RUN!

    j/k...congrats. and remember, happy wife, happy life
     
  4. anticupidon

    anticupidon Ancient Guru

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    Well,congratulations !
    Advices - this is easy.
    Advices that will work for you both - that remains to be seen.
    For a newly wed geek, general advice is to "park" the geek part somewhere,offer the natural,human, romantic part of you.Brides will remember pretty well all details,looks,kisses and whatnot rather than something geeky.
    Later ,one can pull out the geek part again, and have fun again.
    Remember tough,that even the perfect couples fight.It is natural,by the time passes each one will mark the boundaries and unspoken rules will be set.
    A old advice -A man once married can be happy or be right every time(but each time will get him closer to divorce).
     

  5. PhazeDelta1

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    Congrats OP.

    There's no amount of upvotes, brofists, high fives or thumbs up that I could give to say how true that is lol.
     
  6. ---TK---

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    Yeah keep her happy or you will be miserable. Cannot stress that enough.
     
  7. SplashDown

    SplashDown Maha Guru

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    Embrace it, and commit to it, or run like hell....those are your choices. If your not totally sure don't do it.
     
  8. ScoobyDooby

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    Indeeeed.

    Things will always be great when your wife is happy and in a good mood.

    One word of wisdom though that I can give (after being with my lady for over 10 years now, 4 years married)..

    .. when she is moody, unhappy, not doing so well, and wants to lump it on you for whatever reason, don't be fooled.

    if you've done something wrong, fine.. but if you are in the right, and she's giving your grief, know when to stand up for yourself and let your wife know the boundries. If she's acting like a child, tell her she's acting like a child. Call her on her bull$hit.. Trust me.

    I'll say it again. STAND UP for yourself.. otherwise, women can and WILL take advantage of you being the husband. Not all women may do this, but many will.

    Oh and one more thing.. treat her like a queen.. don't let the romance slip.. it is in your best interest to do this.

    Just my experience having been in a long term relationship. good luck OP!
     
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  9. GhostXL

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    Sell the PC, unless your wife to be is okay with it. Get a Tablet, women seem to be okay with this for some reason???

    Your main focus is her now, PC second...or maybe even further down the list?
     
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  10. biggi_

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    Yea I don't think I will be selling my PC, but I think she's alright with it (even though she's too scared to even turn it on with my surround setup). But these have all been good. I think every guy in the world's advice is just "run" but I don't know, I feel differently about it. I guess call me a romantic geek...wait...is that even a thing?
     

  11. HeavyHemi

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    If you're asking for advice on women/marriage on a tech forum...
    One clue you're in trouble? You 'think' you know she's alright with something she's too scared to even turn on. This is just my opinion, but perhaps you should get to know each other better prior to committing to each other FOR LIFE. :infinity:
     
  12. Brasky

    Brasky Ancient Guru

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    Prenuptial Agreement.
     
  13. Fender178

    Fender178 Ancient Guru

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    Spend as much time with her as possible. Treat her like she top priority.
     
  14. sykozis

    sykozis Ancient Guru

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    OP, a bit of advice.... Communication, Honesty, Understanding, Compromise..... Those are the keys to a healthy, happy marriage.... Not necessarily a successful one. Unfortunately, nobody can tell you how to have a successful marriage as not everyone should be married. Some people just aren't compatible....

    There's nothing wrong with asking for advice on a tech forum. We've had several advice threads over the last couple years and for the most people, people have given pretty good advice.

    1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000% accurate.
     
  15. aircool

    aircool Don Aircooleone Staff Member

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    Oh and assets? Hide those :p
     

  16. HeavyHemi

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    Actually, I disagree. If you're planning on making a lifetime commitment to someone and you're still asking such basic relationship questions on a tech forum of all places, a few days prior to your wedding, one might reasonably believe you're not quite ready. Just my opinion of course. If you don't already know about "Communication, Honesty, Understanding, Compromise etc etc..."
     
  17. biggi_

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    Haha no worries, we've been together for 4 years now and we know each other very well. This was more of a "oh boy here we go" type thing full of excitement as well as a bit of worry going into the unknown. As for the computer thing, she is fine with me having it, but she doesn't want to use it. She's plenty happy with her laptop and my Asus tablet :)
     
  18. hallryu

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    As a happily married family man I offer this simple advice.

    Marriage requires work. Day in day out make sure you take time to make your wife feel special. How you do that will depend on your wife but make sure you do.
     
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    I agree with hallryu.
     
  20. Clouseau

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    Open continual communication is of the upmost importance. Without it, you are already sunk. Do not think you can or should change anything about the person you are marrying; either you love her for who and what she is or you do not. It's that black and white. All this put your wife first, it's all about her now, happy wife / happy life is all bull. If you truly love her than all that will come without thought; she will automatically be placed at the forefront. Love her as you love yourself or think of her as you would think of yourself and everything else just falls into place.
     

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