Laptop batteries have overcharge protection circuitry built in to them. So you can't overcharge them.
What really wears out batteries is frequent charge and discharge. Batteries only have a limited amount of cycles, but also a limited lifespan time wise. A few 1000 cycles or 2-3years if I remember correctly.
It won't cause you trouble to keep your battery in your laptop at 100% charge all the time, but it will shorten it's lifespan considerably.
I've seen test results that indicate that one should keep the charge of the lithium ion battery as low as possible when stored and more importantly at a temperature as low as possible as long as the electrolyte does not freeze. A laptop that gets warm is not ideal. A fridge is a good idea. I've put lithium-ions in the freezer before and the housing cracked, but still worked fine, but I DO NOT recommend it!
Remember to let your batteries warm to room temp before using them again.
Also don't let the battery's charge drop too low, otherwise they won't be able to fully charge up again. Protective circuitry prevents this during normal use by cutting power. Through passive discharge in the fridge however a battery's charge can drop below this level.
CONCLUSION:
If you need your battery regularly (on the go or as ups) leave it in your laptop.
If you don't need your battery wrap it in a sealed plastic bag and put in in the fridge at least half charged and check the charge every 3 months.